psychology of cp

[jaybo]

as you can tell i have too much time on my hands. (long term sick waiting for op)And so I have been trawling the internet for interesting facts about cp.A lot is mentioned about why people feel the need to give and receive cp.But what piqued my interest today was the number of people who use it in therapy either, underacheivement,guilt over past misdeeds or drug and alcohol misuse.What I found fascinating was the uniform response that many had felt without drive and direction it was easy to slip into depresion and worse.These treatments involved what sounds like fairly hard sessions but the outcomes were alll positive with few or any relapses,they all experienced a mental clarity that followers of cp understand.

[amanda-tvschoolie]

Hi Jaybo
I for one can relate to what you are talking about. Although cp for me in the main is fun based and involves often complex role play I know as well that I have to hold something back in reserve. So on those occasions in the past when guilt and the realisation that I have truly messed up and completely disappointed myself, it has to be proper. So on those occasions both current and in the past I know where to go let's say a provider/ Spanker where there's no pretence to why I,m there and ultimately I will be reduced to a snivelling contrite wreck. It works though as afterwards I feel completely vindicated and able to move on, guilt cleared. In Order for that to take place though I have to leave their premises having being taken way pass my comfortable level both in a physical state and emotionally.

Amanda x

[Titanites]

I am not a psychologist, though have been a patient of clinical-psychology sessions for the sort of problems Jaybo describes - but not, I hasten to add, for drug or alcohol addiction I am pleased to say!

(A former girl-friend of mine was an alcoholic. It had wrecked her marriage, and though she could be great company when sober, and I did what I could to help her, our relationship ended after a year together. She liked to be spanked, but only mildly and in foreplay, not in any therapeutic sense.)

I wonder if the main benefit comes from being able to unburden yourself by telling another of the bad feelings that otherwise you have to keep bottled up (as I do). Clinical psychologists essentially talk you through the problems and teach you to see past them.

Using CP instead would still offer that chance to talk about your problems, but use spanking to re-inforce that lightening in a strongly cathartic combination. I do not think I could take a hard beating, but my wish to be spanked within a regressive disciplinary framework for immature failings, is still in line with that. Perhaps in this case it's not the severity of the spanking so much as the submission that would work.

[jaybo]

Wow, I sparked something deep here.
I am not entirely sure about why I personally like being spanked, yes I do like the rush that comes with the pain. I'm still unsure of my limits and my sessions are hard but not severe he is careful not to make me bleed... Although I was embarrassed that he broke a cane on my arse lol. The thing is when I self spank I get hard and masterbate, when I'm being topped and spanked I don't, I still get all the lovely sensations and headrush I just don't get erections, that could just be stage fright though it really is a strange combination of feelings... Sorry if this is all a bit Claire Rayner... Did you have any sexual Problems?... Or am I just fucked up lol

[catch21]

To me a huge part of the "enjoyment", for want of a better word, is the anticipation. I have genuine fear turning up somewhere new (and even somewhere familiar) knowing (due to pre-meeting dialogue) that I will lose complete control, and by knocking on a door I give full consent to whatever happens next. You have to get the limits sorted out beforehand, but that is part of the enjoyment.

[jaybo]

Hi all, Amanda, catch, titanites I totally get the anticipation thing, I feel nervous and excited when I see my top, but when I stripped off and bared myself and for him to spank and cane me it was very liberating, and I'm not the body beautiful, I'm 6,2 but a bit chubby, shaved head as my hair was receding and a small knob! But hey ho everything works!
My wife has shown considerable understanding with my fetish as really it's only recently I felt able to come clean about it. I have to be fairly discreet as my kids don't know about it, my son has epilepsy and learning difficulties and my daughter is still in secondary education so really I am just glad of the times I do get to indulge in some spanking fun

[jaybo]

Amanda I just re read your post how hard do your sessions get, to the point of being a snivelling wreck? I have not pushed myself to the point of tears, I tend to cry at things on TV like disabled kids and the like, I might try to test my limits but have to run it by my top, I think I purged a big part of my guilt opening up to my wife xx

[Titanites]

Jaybo -

You wrote:

"when I self spank I get hard and masturbate, when I'm being ... spanked I don't, I still get all the lovely sensations ... I just don't get erections"

Perhaps the difference is how you are used to becoming aroused, though the "stage fright" might be a factor too.

[jaybo]

Re stage fright.. Maybe because when I am alone I can concentrate all my fantasies and get horny, when I'm being spanked I might just be enjoying the sensations.. Although I should give myself some space between wanks.. I am not a spunky teen anymore!

[Titanites]

A good point. I think it's the same for me, Jaybo. And yes, "some space" is a good idea so we rest & recover physically and it doesn't become merely a rather repetitive habit we "have" to follow.

Not a spunky teen? No, me neither. I can still produce something but it's a struggle I put down to simple age, like losing my hair.

(There's still some left on top but some hairs have slipped downhill. I reckon gravity is increasing with time - after all, heavy things seem heavier still these days. The slipped hair's taken root wispily on my back and shoulders where otherwise I am smooth - as my bum is still, I'm pleased to say!)