When I am giveing spanking I sometimes like to start fully clothed with the spankee or sub but also one must take into account the person you are playing with.
When I am recieving I do as I am told. That way both players likes are taken fully into the play.
I dont believe in the you will do as I say atitude but some like it like that.
But normally I am playing with someone I know anyway so we tend to know each other. All this proove that everyone is different. With first time sessions I like to sit down and have good get to know you chat first.

John