It's a big question that has been endlessly discussed before, but there never seems to be a result. Very few ladies post to forums or reply to E-mails and us males really only have ourselves to blame. Ladies are people too, you know. When a lady trusts you enough to meet you can be amazed at the hundreds of approaches she has had, most of them curt or downright rude. An E-mail like (and I've actually seen this one), "Hi Tart! Wanna come round for a whipping?" isn't going to get results. Just because a lady likes to be spanked doesn't make her a target for abuse or an "easy lay". If you were working on setting up a normal date you would take an entirely different route, so what's the difference? Try a better and more considerate approach and the results will surprise you. Anyone with any suggestions?