Although Junior School probaby didn't treat me severely enough, the turn on for me was watching other boys bend over and have their bottoms slippered and then have to bend over myself. It definitely starts in childhood.
Now, the arousal is thinking about being punished, rarely during, often afterwards.






Quote Originally Posted by algonania View Post
It's definitely a sexual thing for me. Probably because it started at a terrible prep school where beatings were rife and often were linked with sexual abuse and/or rape. Some of the sex was great though (in hindsight - terrifying at the time) and it's this intermingling of the two at an early age that probably meant it will always be a sexual thing for me.

That's not say I can't take or give without there being any sexual contact; absolutely not the case it's just that the sexual urges which are definitely there, will always be controlled by the agreement I have reached with the person punishing me or those being punished by me.

Maybe, Barby you're in a different position to me as it's your work - although I can tell it's also your pleasure - but, being a profession must surely mean some 'doctor/patient' type relationship and sexual contact might alter the balance. Also, were you to offer sexual favours it would make you a whore which I think is a very different thing altogether. I would never go to a whore to be punished but I would have no qualms about visiting you - of course, I might sing a different tune post our meeting - if the testimony of others is anything to go by.