[quote=Nai;169]Perhaps as important as a safe word is a Top who can build you up gradually. Testing you just ever so slightly but knowing when to call it a day and recgonising that some days your limits for whatever reason are lower. This I have found particularly so with the cane more so than otk spanking.[/quote) so now i know as there have been times when my limits were not so high so mayb i was havn one of those off days