housewife for discipline

**Tavistock** · 01-05-2010, 09:15 PM

I think that a lot of us have wasted our time on this one.

**anarchistic_masochist** · 02-05-2010, 12:39 AM

Originally Posted by slipperboybare

anyone who thinks that any ads like these are genuine are sadly deluded female lovers of cp are few and far between and any that advertise on her are unlikely to be females unless they are pro doms

I think there are a lot of female lovers of CP. I'm one of them! I'm 100% bottom and I'm seen to quite regularly!

I think there is reticence to advertise because one has to be very careful on line. Rape, sexual assault and even murder are very real possibilities. (Men have to be careful too for different reasons.) I also suspect a lot of women advertise because they really want to do it and then chicken out because paranioa kicks in for the above named reasons. Try to look at things from a female sub point of view. It may be different for Dommes.

What do you guys and gals think? Do you think I may have a point? Any feedback would be much appreciated. Feel free to expose any holes in my argument, but be nice about it!

Cherry

**Mikeinkent** · 03-05-2010, 08:37 PM

Hi I would fully support the last comment!
I have met with several women from this site for serious spanking, paddling and caning sessions [and also from other sites!] .... all have been mindfull of the potential risks and have been carefull as a result! I would also comment that one needs to nurture such relationships, making a female partner feel safe, wanted and understood is important and its also important to be respectful and not in her face!

**anarchistic_masochist** · 03-05-2010, 09:06 PM

Originally Posted by Mikeinkent

Hi I would fully support the last comment!
I have met with several women from this site for serious spanking, paddling and caning sessions [and also from other sites!] .... all have been mindfull of the potential risks and have been carefull as a result! I would also comment that one needs to nurture such relationships, making a female partner feel safe, wanted and understood is important and its also important to be respectful and not in her face!

Amen to that, Sir! To all you male Tops who are looking for a willing female sub, may I respectfully suggest the following. (And I know what I'm on about because I AM a female sub!)

Mikeinkent is quite right. Building up a rapport takes time and patience. It's kinda like conditioning a wild squirrel to take nuts out of your hand. Indulge in the art of conversation. Find out what we're into, swap email addresses. Stress that you respect limits, that you will make us feel safe and that sexual contact is not compulsory! If you have a "little black book" of subs already, with their permission, give a prospective sub the opportunity to get a testimonial off a happy "customer"! Think about what we, as (female) subs are trying to summon the courage to do: to surrender completely; to trust completely and utterly the person who is going to spank them...remember, it's a very mental thing - the psychology has to be right too. It's not just about bending over to receive six of the best!

Remember that there is a fine line between coaxing and persuasion and downright harrassment!

Good luck.

Cherry x

**naughtyjennifer** · 04-05-2010, 11:33 AM

What a lot of whinging! i have been polite enough to reply to you all..For some reason a lot of replies seem to come from outwith the criteria i have set out in my ad....It seems a lot of Gents on this site seem to have a problem understanding a Female who knows exactly what she is looking for....
As for the whinging in public.....

**PhantomScot** · 04-05-2010, 12:58 PM

Originally Posted by naughtyjennifer

What a lot of whinging! i have been polite enough to reply to you all..For some reason a lot of replies seem to come from outwith the criteria i have set out in my ad....It seems a lot of Gents on this site seem to have a problem understanding a Female who knows exactly what she is looking for....
As for the whinging in public.....

Hi Naughtyjennifer, As I'm too far away from you, to have any real say; You are right to voice your anger at those, who, for whatever reason, have a belief that women don't frequent this site, or like cp etc. As a switch, I have had the pleasure of spanking a number of women over the years, and my first experience of this, was when the lady in questions suggested it to me. Please don't be put off, my the negativity of some members, who are probably shocked to know someone (female) who is willing to accept, after careful vetting.

**naughtyjennifer** · 04-05-2010, 05:33 PM

Thank you for the kind message Phantomscot....

**anarchistic_masochist** · 05-05-2010, 12:13 AM

Originally Posted by PhantomScot

Hi Naughtyjennifer, As I'm too far away from you, to have any real say; You are right to voice your anger at those, who, for whatever reason, have a belief that women don't frequent this site, or like cp etc. As a switch, I have had the pleasure of spanking a number of women over the years, and my first experience of this, was when the lady in questions suggested it to me. Please don't be put off, my the negativity of some members, who are probably shocked to know someone (female) who is willing to accept, after careful vetting.

Yes! Singing from the same hymm sheet! At last! Thank you PhantomScot and naughtyjennifer! And CovSpank, thank you also for your kind words.

This is a fine "Eureka!" moment indeed!