Nobody prepared to accommodate

**subsimon** · 17-08-2010, 01:25 PM

I generally cannot accomidate, as I have kids, and a wife who does indulge me (the wife that is), but does make the situation more complicated. However there are plenty of local travel lodges etc for £50 a day, so if needed its not impossible. Also once I get to know people and build up trust, the situation may change.

Si

**borocub** · 01-09-2010, 09:57 PM

i do have get togethers now and then for my spanking mates. We have the chance just to get together have a bit of fun spanking only. All i ask is they bring a bottle, also i ask a few new guys that find it hard to meet. Once my partener and i live together we can have regular soical meets.

**leedstights** · 04-09-2010, 06:55 PM

I guess it all comes down to the individual with this kind of thing, and I, for one, fully respect anybodys decisions and choices when it comes down to accommodating. After all , its our unique circumstances that dictate our decisions.

For me, I don't see the problem. I wouldn't want to be in somebody elses house while being spanked. As a spankee I feel that by being spanked in my own home that I have a level of control, and that the visitor would respect being in somebody elses house and respect that.

Ultimately, we are all adults, who share this interest,we didnt stumble upon this 'spanking' website, we consciously 'searched' for it, in the hope we find others who share the same interest, if we cant trust each other, then we really are goosed.

It's easy to imagine 'worst case scenarios', but the reality (in my experience) is that seldom , if at all, do things go wrong, obviously working on the proviso that things are discussed prior and that those involved are totally comfortable with proceedings.

For me, 'accommodating' only adds to the whole scenario, opening the door and inviting another man into my house, knowing and being fully aware of what he is about to do to me, it enhances the receptive, submissive mood in which I am when doing anything like this.

It's all about feeling totally comfortable and hopefully the person visiting can feel comfortable too, after all, I am willing to bet even 'doms' would feel nervous visiting somebody else.

Theres always somebody who wants to make money out of whatever given situation, and to be fair, theres those who are willing to pay, but , for me, definitely not, no charges either way. If two people can't arrive at a mutually acceptable situation and have to resort to paying ridiculous fees to vent their anxities, well, enough said.

Just my opinion obviously, based upon my personality and circumstances.

**borocub** · 04-09-2010, 07:01 PM

Originally Posted by leedstights

I guess it all comes down to the individual with this kind of thing, and I, for one, fully respect anybodys decisions and choices when it comes down to accommodating. After all , its our unique circumstances that dictate our decisions.

For me, I don't see the problem. I wouldn't want to be in somebody elses house while being spanked. As a spankee I feel that by being spanked in my own home that I have a level of control, and that the visitor would respect being in somebody elses house and respect that.

Ultimately, we are all adults, who share this interest,we didnt stumble upon this 'spanking' website, we consciously 'searched' for it, in the hope we find others who share the same interest, if we cant trust each other, then we really are goosed.

It's easy to imagine 'worst case scenarios', but the reality (in my experience) is that seldom , if at all, do things go wrong, obviously working on the proviso that things are discussed prior and that those involved are totally comfortable with proceedings.

For me, 'accommodating' only adds to the whole scenario, opening the door and inviting another man into my house, knowing and being fully aware of what he is about to do to me, it enhances the receptive, submissive mood in which I am when doing anything like this.

It's all about feeling totally comfortable and hopefully the person visiting can feel comfortable too, after all, I am willing to bet even 'doms' would feel nervous visiting somebody else.

Just my opinion obviously, based upon my personality and circumstances.

Yes a few doms have felt the nerves too, but you do make very valid points.

**Naked and waiting** · 04-09-2010, 10:34 PM

Well mr Peter London. You are not prepared to accommodate and I have offered in the past and you refused. Pick the bones out of that one mate!

Time waster!

**borocub** · 06-09-2010, 09:49 PM

Originally Posted by Naked and waiting

Well mr Peter London. You are not prepared to accommodate and I have offered in the past and you refused. Pick the bones out of that one mate!

Time waster!

Big cat fight, canes at six paces.

**jennyTv** · 07-09-2010, 10:23 AM

I could accomadate , I'm single , have room etc but the most important thing for me is trust.. I wouldn't invite anyone to my home on the strength of a few words exchanged on a website. I would prefer to meet first or have a recomendation from someone I trust.

I have been accused of being a timewaster by folk wishing to see me when I've refused. Invariably we swap a few messages ,they suggest a date/time and take umbrage when I decline their offer.

For me these things take time to arrange and there is nothing more off putting than someone getting pushy/impatient.

Haaving said all that is there anything more exciting than meeting a dom for the first time ???

**Caribou 2** · 08-09-2010, 04:17 PM

Originally Posted by jennyTv

I have been accused of being a timewaster by folk wishing to see me when I've refused.

Me too - I just ignore it.

I'm always polite, honest and up-front but that's not good enough for some people, they turn nasty and try and blacken one's name on the forum. At the end of the day, if I'm not happy I will not take it any further, whether they like it or not. I've also sent photographs of myself to people on the promise of having one of theirs in exchange, but once they've got mine I get nothing in return. I won't be doing that anymore either.

**leedstights** · 25-09-2010, 02:34 PM

Got to agree with what's been said here. I had somebody contacting me, via email , and we all know that sending emails back and forth is never gonna go anywhere, there needs to be some level of direct contact, theres plenty of ways of doing this if the folk involved make the effort.

The problem is with so many is just that ,,, they dont make the effort and they have no consideration of other peoples personal circumstances.

They want a fix and they want it quick, which , in my opinion, is just about the worst way to go about things and fraught with danger and problems.

I frequently respond in a negative manner to emails, to see how the other responds. It's amazing how many times a person, who outwardly appears to be intelligent, reliable and sensible, responds in a threatening manner when they suspect that you aren't interested.

I aren't saying these types of people aren't genuine, but I am saying they aren't trustworthy.

Genuine folk respond in an understanding manner, offering alternatives and options, they are usually pretty much in the same boat as yourself and are able to relate to others predicaments.