Nobody prepared to accommodate

**peterlondon** · 19-02-2010, 11:34 PM

It seems that nobody is prepared to accommodate, so we aren't getting anywhere are we?

**borocub** · 20-02-2010, 12:33 AM

i can accom, but by the time i've found out what they want, it a trust thing. I don't give over my control to lightly.

**Auntie Susie** · 20-02-2010, 12:39 AM

15th March from 10am-5pm in Barnet School Room please email Auntie for more info looking for nephews and nieces all welcomed refreshments included.

**borocub** · 20-02-2010, 12:53 AM

well thanks but i like one to ones with guys. As i can host but i'm very careful how i invite to my home.

**peterlondon** · 20-02-2010, 08:51 AM

I think thats the problem, I've found people often come across so blooming pushy that I get alarmed and decide no way could I risk my safety by letting that one know where I live.

**borocub** · 20-02-2010, 09:38 AM

yes ur so right, i have had some guys that wanted to beat me to a pulp. Or they will not give u a photo of what they look like. It's a matter of weeding out the nut jobs.

**KATIE TV** · 23-02-2010, 02:19 PM

I have been a Pro. Dom/sub TV.(I charge for my services) for a number of years and yes most of my clients are playing away from home so can’t accomadate. But in all those years I have only had a couple that I would not see again, It is a shame that people can not be more open about what they like to do.

**borocub** · 23-02-2010, 05:23 PM

it would be good if people would be open and state what they want and age they like to have a session with. I'm always up front and i now what i like and don't like. Also respect limits.

**borocub** · 15-08-2010, 01:45 PM

also it would be better as well if the message would not start with 'do you need a good thrashing'. As respect is earned not expected.

**leedstights** · 04-09-2010, 06:55 PM

I guess it all comes down to the individual with this kind of thing, and I, for one, fully respect anybodys decisions and choices when it comes down to accommodating. After all , its our unique circumstances that dictate our decisions.

For me, I don't see the problem. I wouldn't want to be in somebody elses house while being spanked. As a spankee I feel that by being spanked in my own home that I have a level of control, and that the visitor would respect being in somebody elses house and respect that.

Ultimately, we are all adults, who share this interest,we didnt stumble upon this 'spanking' website, we consciously 'searched' for it, in the hope we find others who share the same interest, if we cant trust each other, then we really are goosed.

It's easy to imagine 'worst case scenarios', but the reality (in my experience) is that seldom , if at all, do things go wrong, obviously working on the proviso that things are discussed prior and that those involved are totally comfortable with proceedings.

For me, 'accommodating' only adds to the whole scenario, opening the door and inviting another man into my house, knowing and being fully aware of what he is about to do to me, it enhances the receptive, submissive mood in which I am when doing anything like this.

It's all about feeling totally comfortable and hopefully the person visiting can feel comfortable too, after all, I am willing to bet even 'doms' would feel nervous visiting somebody else.

Theres always somebody who wants to make money out of whatever given situation, and to be fair, theres those who are willing to pay, but , for me, definitely not, no charges either way. If two people can't arrive at a mutually acceptable situation and have to resort to paying ridiculous fees to vent their anxities, well, enough said.

Just my opinion obviously, based upon my personality and circumstances.