male or female

**Uncle David** · 11-06-2010, 09:39 PM

Originally Posted by jennyTv

However what galled me is the implication that a majority of TVs are disingenuous and the general tone of both yours and "cherrys" posts
If you have a distaste for those who are unlike you why do you need to voice that here.

Tolerance is a thing expected by all given by few.

"Desparate" ?

A clear case of over-reaction on your part jennyTV. Neither Cherry or myself suggested a majority of the TV's on this site are being misleading.

My distaste is for those who mislead others and, if you believe I shouldn't debate that here, where would you have me debate the subject - on a gardening forum?

"Cherry's"

Uncle David

**anarchistic_masochist** · 12-06-2010, 03:12 PM

Originally Posted by jennyTv

"I will deliberately pick a gender-neutral name and will let people believe that I'm male"

that's OK if you do it tho !

I found a biological female who is dishonest and try's to make out, or give a strong impression that, they're biologically male. Not come across any TVs trying to make out, or give a strong impression that, they're biologically female.

Unlike you I don't make sweeping generalisations... otherwise I probly would have started with something like .. I got nothing against biological females.... but

How am I making out that I'm male? Can't a female be an anarchistic masochist? From that quote above, the context was on other (non-spanking) chat-rooms. Even on this forum, people will know my mind first and my gender second. It helps to circumvent being viewed as a sex object. Besides, I sign my posts "Cherry" - a pretty girly name! My profile also details my gender, so if prospective spankers don't bother to even check out my profile, more fool them! It's a common complaint on many sites of hapless male Tops who go to meet a female spankee, only to find that the 'she' is a 'he.' And I did make it clear that I was speaking very generally. I was not bashing out a hate-speech lambasting every TV that has ever walked the earth. I was merely expressing my displeasure of a small minority of morons that end up wasting people's time by their delusional dishonesty. Then real female subs end up getting pestered by paranoid male Tops, insisting on their phone numbers, so they can fully ascertain their prospective spankee's gender! I speak from experience!!!

Your turn...

Cherry

**anarchistic_masochist** · 12-06-2010, 03:16 PM

Originally Posted by Uncle David

As usual, you aren't afraid to state the truth and apply common-sense to a subject Cherry.

Uncle David

Aw! Ta, Uncle. It makes a change for someone to praise me for opening my big gob, instead of physically chastising me for it! It does get me into trouble! *chuckles*

Cherry x

**anarchistic_masochist** · 12-06-2010, 03:20 PM

Originally Posted by covspank

As far as I know, it doesn't have a root in any other language. It's use dates back to the early 18th century; I suspect that its origin is imitative- in other words it is imitating the sound of hand slapping bottom.

The Demon Headmaster

I beleive the term is onomatopoeia isn't it, Sir?

*Grins broadly*

Cherry x

**anarchistic_masochist** · 12-06-2010, 04:19 PM

Originally Posted by covspank

It is- and you've spelt it correctly! Shame you couldn't manage "believe" though!
*Grimaces in despair*
TDH

Whoops. Sorry Sir. I always have trouble spelling that word, even though it conforms to the " 'i' before 'e,' except after 'c' rule. I should've nailed it by now...*sighs*

Cherry x

jennysub · 13-06-2010, 06:46 AM

As a moderator on another adult contact site the most frequent complaint we get concerns blokes masquerading as female. Even if declaration of gender was made a mandatory disclosure in profle registrations it would make little fifference as someone wanting to lie will lie.

We rarely, in fact to my knowledge never, ever had a complaint about a transvestite not declaring that they are just that.

It is a sad fact of life that the relative ease of access of internet sites and the relative anonimity offered makes it a highly attractive medium for the fakes and fantasists and even sites where some form of "verification" screening via photo or voice is offered they are still polluted by those determined enough to masquerade as the opposite gender.

**anarchistic_masochist** · 13-06-2010, 11:08 AM

Originally Posted by jennysub

As a moderator on another adult contact site the most frequent complaint we get concerns blokes masquerading as female. Even if declaration of gender was made a mandatory disclosure in profle registrations it would make little fifference as someone wanting to lie will lie.

We rarely, in fact to my knowledge never, ever had a complaint about a transvestite not declaring that they are just that.

It is a sad fact of life that the relative ease of access of internet sites and the relative anonimity offered makes it a highly attractive medium for the fakes and fantasists and even sites where some form of "verification" screening via photo or voice is offered they are still polluted by those determined enough to masquerade as the opposite gender.

A very eloquent post, Jenny! I wholeheartedly support your comments.

In conclusion then, the nature of the Internet requires us all to exercise caution and common sense. There are a lot of idiots who will lie and waste your time; there seems to be a problem with some individuals being dishonest regarding their gender, and the female subs, knowing full well how dangerous the net can be, will "hide" on forums, only coming out to play, so to speak, when a rapport has been established with a safe and sane individual.

Cherry x x

jennysub · 13-06-2010, 12:59 PM

Common sense regardless of circumstance. I have been in the BDSM community for 27 years, 21 as Domme, and seen just about every abuse of trust there can be,

There are fantasists on both sides as I hear regularly from my Dom friends, sadly the "brendaBigtists, 18, I'm a sub, tell me what you would like to do to me" more often transpires to be "SadFatBob, 55, "I'm a wanker, please send me more masturbation fodder", "

**Uncle David** · 13-06-2010, 02:38 PM

Originally Posted by jennysub

There are fantasists on both sides as I hear regularly from my Dom friends, sadly the "brendaBigtists, 18, I'm a sub, tell me what you would like to do to me" more often transpires to be "SadFatBob, 55, "I'm a wanker, please send me more masturbation fodder", "

Indeed, this is sometimes sadly the case. "Women" will write saying they are shy and yet immediately want to enter into great detail about how they want to be spanked.

Try to exchange any other information with them though in order to try to build some trust on both sides and the possibility is that they're never heard from again. Presumably, these shy "women" are either fakers or their shyness wouldn't prevent them from immediately meeting up with the first dom that comes along and let him spank her - very odd.

Uncle David

jennysub · 13-06-2010, 03:46 PM

The problem wth naming and shaming is it is so open to abuse. D talks to s, s decides D is not for them and says so, D gets all upset and calls s a timewaster etc, or petty feuds of the past emerge as slagging off contests in the name and shame section. The other thing is what constitutes timewasting? I myself have been accused of being a timewaster because I had the effrontery to exchange 4 or 5 messages with someone only to then decide they were not for me and said no thank you.

If it happens in the forum where I am a mod anyone criticizing another in a name/shame capacity has the post removed, second time has themselves removed and banned from the forum.

Naming and shaming has been tried about everywhere and has always fallen foul of just who says what or agreed what,

If anyone has reason to complain about another member then we encourage a report to admin, if a picture emerges, the claim is substantiated, then we just remove the persistent ofender from the site and block the ISP. However in my experience that has happened rarely.