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**anarchistic_masochist** · 20-06-2010, 12:30 PM

Originally Posted by covspank

There was a time when a Sub knew her place! You have clearly forgotten yours. I have just read your posting "Cherry's cheek is kept in check". It would appear that Mikeinkent did not do a very good job!

The Demon Headmaster

I'm sorry Sir, but you did leave yourself wide open for that one! I couldn't resist! I was only pulling your leg, I meant no disrespect Sir...honest!

**loveitotk** · 20-06-2010, 07:03 PM

lol soliciter cov spank you are funny. there you go people i put a full stop in, why does it matter if i have'nt correctly punctuated my posts. We are chatting on a forum grow up (not specifically aimed at you cov).

**anarchistic_masochist** · 20-06-2010, 07:54 PM

Originally Posted by loveitotk

lol soliciter cov spank you are funny. there you go people i put a full stop in, why does it matter if i have'nt correctly punctuated my posts. We are chatting on a forum grow up (not specifically aimed at you cov).

You think you're so clever, don't you?! I've usually got patience of a saint, but you are really starting to get on my nerves! "There...I've put a full stop in!" - you tit! Don't you realise, that no matter how erudite, witty or relevant your posts are, a lack of grammar, flair and yes, punctuation will only serve to highlight your already blatant stupidity? You are totally incapable of constructing a cohesive, logical argument as you do not back up what you say, preferring instead to lambaste Cov for his “apparent” lack of maturity. But then again, how can one justify laziness, ignorance and stupidity? I appreciate the fact that this is a forum, therefore an informal setting; no one is expecting anyone else to bash out their posts in iambic pentameter. But there is absolutely no excuse (unless you’re severely dyslexic) for your frankly shocking illiteracy!

Cherry

**anarchistic_masochist** · 20-06-2010, 09:11 PM

Originally Posted by covspank

Who are you accusing of an "apparent lack of maturity"? I think if you trace the thread back, it's you that Lovey is having a go at!
TDH

I beg your pardon, Sir, I thought he was having a pop at you, telling you you "grow up!" As if I would accuse you of anything! As cheeky as I am, I don't have a death wish!!

I've retraced the thread and yes, I can now see how he's attacking me. He knows he hasn't got a prayer trying to get one over on you, so now he's going for what he perceives to be an easy target! And he doesn't even have the balls to say it to me directly! What a coward!

Oh, and what's that word for when someone picks on someone else that is (or is perceived to be) weaker than them? Oh! That's it! A bully! He's hiding behind technology too, so that makes him a cyber-bully! (And bullies are cowardly by their very nature.) How ironic! And his posts are designed specifically to provoke a negative emotional response by winding people up. That also makes him, guess what? A troll!

It's time to treat this little twit with the contempt he deserves...

*Cherry hammers a notice onto the wall of the forum that reads:

DO NOT FEED THE TROLL

Take that, you little oik! Unlike you, I'll make it clear who I'm addressing!

Grrr!!!!

Cherry

guymark · 15-07-2010, 10:58 AM

A reasoned point well made Jenny.

I quite like the compromise that seems to be on here at the moment where people can make an entry in the "experiences" forum. If members are encouraged to mention the positives and perhaps just "move on" from the negs, then it still works as a feedback system - but gives everyone "an even hand" to begin with - and those who keep their meetings get positive feedback.

I think the only part I would query would be how many folks would stop short of the "post to admin" on the basis it would somehow be more "sneaky" than just saying "this person is a timewaster" in public.

Perhaps, a little like the "reputation" system we use to "mark posts", a way to just award a person a positive or negative tick for "integrity/reliability" could be made. If a user could only be "marked" by someone the once, it greatly limits the chance of abuse - you either give them a yay - or a nay - nowt more to do. If folks end up with a minus score, it might suggest a minimum time investment - someone with a high number is perhaps likely to be there when they say they will - so IS worth putting some time in "getting to know them".

Mark

Originally Posted by jennysub

The problem wth naming and shaming is it is so open to abuse. D talks to s, s decides D is not for them and says so, D gets all upset and calls s a timewaster etc, or petty feuds of the past emerge as slagging off contests in the name and shame section. The other thing is what constitutes timewasting? I myself have been accused of being a timewaster because I had the effrontery to exchange 4 or 5 messages with someone only to then decide they were not for me and said no thank you.

If it happens in the forum where I am a mod anyone criticizing another in a name/shame capacity has the post removed, second time has themselves removed and banned from the forum.

Naming and shaming has been tried about everywhere and has always fallen foul of just who says what or agreed what,

If anyone has reason to complain about another member then we encourage a report to admin, if a picture emerges, the claim is substantiated, then we just remove the persistent ofender from the site and block the ISP. However in my experience that has happened rarely.