I'm feeling down after a much looked forward to encounter didn't go as anticipated. Sir was ideal age for a Headmaster, well presented and convincing, his study was clean, the wait outside the study door to be summoned had my tummy butterflies doing aerobatics...

but...

- A Black and Decker Workmate is not, and never will be, a "Spanking Bench". It is just naff. Simply bent over a table or armchair, or on a bed is much better.

- A "gradual warm-up" is not "hit you as hard as I can with a plimsoll, then hit you as hard as I can with a heavy strap, then you should be warmed up so I can hit you hard with a cane".

- I can accept the cane better if you give it slowly, "Whack-pause-examine-position-lineup-tap-tap-Whack..." than "Whackwhackwhackwhackwhackwhackwhacketywhack.. ."

- If you punish me in a way that works for me: I will be able to take more; I will gradually be able to take harder as the scenario develops; it will be easier to persuade/order me to bend over for another 6, 12, etc., strokes; I'm more likely to come back for more.

- My bottom is my bottom. The part I sit on. Not just anywhere between the small of my back and my knees, my hips, sides of my thighs, etc.

- Yes, I know its supposed to hurt, but there is hurt in a good way and hurt in a bad way.

- Its not just about being domineering, its about getting me into a state of mind where I willingly surrender my bottom for punishment.

- Its not just about whacking away, its about observing my reactions, and pacing and gauging things so that it works for me as well as you.


OK, I stayed and accepted 24 cane strokes over the course of the detention, but it wasn't working for me and it just hurt. If it had been working I would have stayed for longer and taken at least twice as much.

Anybody (M or F) able to show me how it should be done?