Originally Posted by
algonania
It's definitely a sexual thing for me. Probably because it started at a terrible prep school where beatings were rife and often were linked with sexual abuse and/or rape. Some of the sex was great though (in hindsight - terrifying at the time) and it's this intermingling of the two at an early age that probably meant it will always be a sexual thing for me.
That's not say I can't take or give without there being any sexual contact; absolutely not the case it's just that the sexual urges which are definitely there, will always be controlled by the agreement I have reached with the person punishing me or those being punished by me.
Maybe, Barby you're in a different position to me as it's your work - although I can tell it's also your pleasure - but, being a profession must surely mean some 'doctor/patient' type relationship and sexual contact might alter the balance. Also, were you to offer sexual favours it would make you a whore which I think is a very different thing altogether. I would never go to a whore to be punished but I would have no qualms about visiting you - of course, I might sing a different tune post our meeting - if the testimony of others is anything to go by.
