This may be a stupid idea, but it occurred to me that with so many of us eager to meet like-minded spankers or spankees but unable to accommodate, a self-spanking or caning over a webcam might be a partial answer. I'd personally be eager to chastise myself with a cane or riding crop, under direction, and prepared to reverse roles if desired. Yahoo Messenger does webcams quite well, and I believe Skype now has a webcam service.
Do let me know, either here in the forum or via private message.