A more-or-less complete beginner writes...

[Xerxes]

Evening all.

It's been interesting looking at this splendid little forum over the last couple of days. It seems a nice community with lots of banter and humour, but I can't help notice that everyone seems to be rather experienced with the old spanking thing. And I'm, well, not.:o At all. I suppose I've had fantasies all my life but never dared to act upon them, but recently I've been wondering. Incidentally, I'm male, straight, a wannabe Top but I imagine a bit of switching might be a good idea to start with. :D

So does anyone have any advice to someone who's thinking of dipping a toe into the water of corporal punishment for the first time? (Sorry, awful metaphor there!:D) How does one get started? What's the etiquette? Do any of you lovely people have any words of wisdom?

[borocub]

well you have made the first step. I had sessions first as a sub. I think finding out what works helps with a spanker. I was lucky after many session i found my partener. He mentors me to switch.

[anarchistic_masochist]

Hello Xerxes, Sir

As you can probably tell by the way I've addressed you, I'm a sub. I have not seen any dominant women on here, but there are plenty of men who would love to thrash you! Men and women dominate in different ways, so it might be a good idea to submit to a male, so that you can (possibly literally) learn the ropes.

Cool name, by the way!

Cherry x

[Xerxes]

Cheers, both. I wasn't expecting replies so soon- I feel welcomed.:)

Yes, I think it wouyld be a good idea to know how to take a damn good thrashing before giving them- it seems the gentlemanly thing to do at this point.:D Not sure how comfortable I'd be about submitting to a male, though- I'll have to think about that.

[anarchistic_masochist]

...Not sure how comfortable I'd be about submitting to a male, though- I'll have to think about that.

I can understand your reluctance, but I was thinking that it may be possible for you to look for a male that is just into CP, and no "extras", if you know what I mean. CP is about trust in a big way, especially if you're the one that is submitting!

Of course, it is all entirely up to you! :D Something for you to think about, anyway...

Cherry x :)

[borocub]

Cheers, both. I wasn't expecting replies so soon- I feel welcomed.:)

Yes, I think it wouyld be a good idea to know how to take a damn good thrashing before giving them- it seems the gentlemanly thing to do at this point.:D Not sure how comfortable I'd be about submitting to a male, though- I'll have to think about that.
There is more to just giving someone a good thrashing. I've built up my levels. Yes giving up control is the hardest thing. The guys i have sessions with i trust. It comes down to talking setting limits and respect.

[Uncle David]

Evening all.

It's been interesting looking at this splendid little forum over the last couple of days. It seems a nice community with lots of banter and humour, but I can't help notice that everyone seems to be rather experienced with the old spanking thing. And I'm, well, not.:o At all. I suppose I've had fantasies all my life but never dared to act upon them, but recently I've been wondering. Incidentally, I'm male, straight, a wannabe Top but I imagine a bit of switching might be a good idea to start with. :D

So does anyone have any advice to someone who's thinking of dipping a toe into the water of corporal punishment for the first time? (Sorry, awful metaphor there!:D) How does one get started? What's the etiquette? Do any of you lovely people have any words of wisdom?

You write very well and at your age of thirty-three should do well if you are prepared to take your time to become known on spanking sites such as this one. There are female subbies on here but I think it's fair to say there aren't many and so it will be for them to decide whether they are inclined to accept an inexperienced Top.

I first spanked a lady many years' ago and, although I had no experience, things came naturally to me as you may find they will to you. It's very important to be honest but, if you wish to be Top, I wouldn't advise you to make too much of an issue regarding your apprehension. If you do receive replies from advertisements, you may well find that the ladies themselves will make a point of being shy and nervous and so it will be your job to lead and help them. By the way - do beware, as you may receive bogus replies from men masquerading as females which can be time-wasting as well as frustrating.

If you look around the internet, you'll find many spanking sites with interesting reading matter, so do surf around.

I'm confident you will do but at all times act in a responsible manner and treat subbies in a caring and considerate way.

With best wishes, Uncle David :)

[Xerxes]

I can understand your reluctance, but I was thinking that it may be possible for you to look for a male that is just into CP, and no "extras", if you know what I mean. CP is about trust in a big way, especially if you're the one that is submitting!

Of course, it is all entirely up to you! :D Something for you to think about, anyway...

Cherry x :)

Actually that might be doable, purely in the interests of scientific experimentation- I'm rather curious about what my limits may be.:D I suppose what makes me a bit uncomfortable is the thought of another man's hand on my rear!


There is more to just giving someone a good thrashing. I've built up my levels. Yes giving up control is the hardest thing. The guys i have sessions with i trust. It comes down to talking setting limits and respect.

Yes, definitely. I admit the thought of spanking others makes me quite nervous and I'd need to be sure that everything I did was ok. I'm sure there's an element of beginner's ignorance here but I definitely don't want to hurt anyone. If you know what I mean...!

Mind you, when it comes to my own limits, I'm really quite curious!


You write very well and at your age of thirty-three should do well if you are prepared to take your time to become known on spanking sites such as this one. There are female subbies on here but I think it's fair to say there aren't many and so it will be for them to decide whether they are inclined to accept an inexperienced Top.

I first spanked a lady many years' ago and, although I had no experience, things came naturally to me as you may find they will to you. It's very important to be honest but, if you wish to be Top, I wouldn't advise you to make too much of an issue regarding your apprehension. If you do receive replies from advertisements, you may well find that the ladies themselves will make a point of being shy and nervous and so it will be your job to lead and help them. By the way - do beware, as you may receive bogus replies from men masquerading as females which can be time-wasting as well as frustrating.

If you look around the internet, you'll find many spanking sites with interesting reading matter, so do surf around.

I'm confident you will do but at all times act in a responsible manner and treat subbies in a caring and considerate way.

With best wishes, Uncle David :)


Thanks for that very considered and helpful reply- I appreciate it.:)

[borocub]

like cherry has said there are guys that only do cp. I have one guy i see from time to time. As he works over seas. He treats me like a naughty nephew, there is no sexual content. For me it's the ritual of been spanked like a naughty boi.i do enjoy the sexual side too, but what ever is agreed by both parties from the start that's important.

[anarchistic_masochist]

You're popular today, my friend! :D

Cherry x

[Xerxes]

That'll be my personal charm and magnetism, and not at all the fact that there haven't been many active threads elsewhere for the past hour or so.:D

[Uncle David]

You're popular today, my friend! :D

Cherry x

Indeed he is Cherry and deservedly so I think.

However, what I want to know my friend is what's a young lady like you doing in front of a computer screen on a Saturday evening?

Young people are meant to work hard and play hard, so maybe what you need is a good spanking :D

Uncle David x

[anarchistic_masochist]

Indeed he is Cherry and deservedly so I think.

However, what I want to know my friend is what's a young lady like you doing in front of a computer screen on a Saturday evening?

Young people are meant to work hard and play hard, so maybe what you need is a good spanking :D

Uncle David x

I always need a good spanking, Uncle David... :o

Cherry x

[Tara]

Evening all.
So does anyone have any advice to someone who's thinking of dipping a toe into the water of corporal punishment for the first time? (Sorry, awful metaphor there!:D) How does one get started? What's the etiquette? Do any of you lovely people have any words of wisdom?

I get a lot of newbies visiting me for a session, I show you all the best spanking techniques and how to use the implements and let you practise away on me! Gives you confidence and teaches you how to spank for both erotic and punishment.

[Xerxes]

I think may have to take you up on that delightful offer!

[Uncle David]

I think may have to take you up on that delightful offer!

Although I've never met Tara, I did visit two commercial spankees in the West Midlands area and can assure you that each session was well worthwhile.

Without attending munches and spanking parties, it's becoming extremely difficult to find amateur ladies now and I suggest you would do well to seek out a commercial lady. It will cost you some money - perhaps around £140:00 but at least you won't meet up with complications.

Tara looks good to me but if you'd like me to recommend a lovely young lady who would give you an unhurried session - with a cuppa and a chat beforehand - drop me a line and I'll respond.

Regards, Uncle David :)

[Uncle David]

Hello again Xerses,

I hope you received my reply to your PM.

The site is playing me up again and I'm getting no confirmations or storage of sent messages.

Uncle David

[red hand]

i am straight male switch, i do meet for M2M, but always make it clear that i am not into any form of sexual element with other males, indeed if i am in sub role with other male then i insist on wearing a thong, in an ideal world i would prefer to play with females only, but they are difficult to find, unless you are willing to pay large sums of money, i have met females who do play simply because they enjoy it, but these are few and far between, without being sexist i actually think men are better spankers than women, but that is only my opinion based on my own experiences.

[red hand]

as usual TDH keeps a watchful eye on all his pupils even during the summer holidays, and am well aware of my fate in October